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11 Years of Therapy Quotes

August 15, 2019 | Rachel Velishek, LPCC


I have been providing psychotherapy for 11 years, I have been licensed and worked in 2 different states, employed at 4 different establishments, and—if I had to estimate—interacted with more than 1,000 individuals in a therapeutic setting. I absolutely love what I do. I have never dreaded coming to “work,” it has never been work for me. Providing counseling has always been my choice. It has been my choice to learn, to advance, to support, and to encourage. In the past 11 years my own therapeutic approach has evolved and I have obtained more advanced trainings and certifications, but somethings remain the same.

I will frequently use metaphors with my patients, reference articles I have read, and I will quote authors, movies, or even songs. I have found myself frequently utilizing the same set of quotes, metaphors, and references. I am confident that it’s for no other reason other than their effectiveness. The reality is all of us have a story. We all have a past and more often than not we all can relate to the same emotional experience. So, this week I wanted to try something new. I wanted to compile things I frequently say in therapy sessions. I have included my favorites, my go-tos. I have also included quotes others have shared with. In my office I have a board that states “Give what you can, take what you need.” Sometimes a person takes a card: something to inspire, validate, or encourage them. Other times they write a card: something that has inspired, encouraged, or helped them, a message to help someone else.

So this is the compilation of 11 years as a therapist:

“Since the day you have been born, crying has been a sign you are alive.” –Unknown

“You can’t go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending”- C.S. Lewis

“You will either step forward into growth, or you will step backward into safety”- Maslow

“The experiences in your life do not define you, the experiences you have are situational. Life is full of circumstances that affect you and that have a significant influence on you, but they do not define you. Our life experiences are not the conclusion to who we are or who we are capable of becoming. There is not a situation that can take your worth and value away. How you perceive life is influenced by the experiences you have, create the experiences to live the life you want. it’s the choices that we make every day that determine who we will become and how we live.” –Rachel Velishek

“You might be sad because you’ve been through a lot, but you should also be proud of yourself for being strong enough to make it through everything you’ve been through.” – unknown

“Your story matters” – Unknown

“You can rise up from anything. You can completely recreate yourself. Nothing is permanent. you’re not stuck. you have choices. you can think new thoughts. you can learn something new. you can create new habits. All that matters is that you decide today and never look back.” –Unknown

“Never be a prisoner of your past. it was just a lesson, not a life sentence. Just Because you may be feeling broken remember, a Kaleidoscope is also made from broken parts. When you look through it, you see something beautiful in return.” – Unknown.

“It doesn’t matter what you’re looking at; it’s what you see.”

“Your story is unique and so, so different…and not worthy of comparison.” -Unknown.

“We are built from our mistakes that we have made, mistakes are opportunities to learn. 99% of people can’t see past hardship, they see that as a time to pack up, to leave, give up. Be the 1% who sees differently, who recognizes the opportunity. Believe in yourself to be different. If you want something bad enough, be uncomfortable, what hurts in the present moment is the same exact thing that will transform your life down the road.”

“What you say is the person that you want to be, what you do is the person you truly are. What you choose to focus on influences success. If you focus on your past, on what is not working for you will cause frustration. Focus on what you have right now, focus on what you are grateful for. If you want to thrive then focus on you, control your own thoughts. Believe in yourself, believe that tomorrow will be better than today. Ask for wisdom to help, don’t ask for things to be easier, and ask to get better. What happens does not control your life. What you decide to do with what happens controls your life. Your choices control your life. Your decisions. Your actions. You are the one who decides if you are going to quit at the first struggle, you decide if you won’t.”

“We have to let go of the life we have planned to accept the one that is waiting for us.” -Unknown

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” -Albert Camus

“With the realization of one’s own potential and self confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” -Dalai Lama

“The only guarantee you will ever have is this exact moment, the past is a lesson, the future is not guaranteed, the future is motivation, but the present…that is your gift. Appreciate what you have received.”

“For every minute you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything that comes their way.”

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. in our response lies our growth and our freedom.” –Viktor Frankl

“You’re far too smart to be the only thing standing in your way. If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” -Unknown

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves” -Viktor Frankl

“Staying the same is a comfortable choice. People become comfortable in their own misery. Those who don’t implement the right change at the right time are at risk of failure”-Unknown

“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything”-George Bernard Shaw

“A person will only change when they are motivated for change, cannot change what they will not accept, need to accept to identify the problem to be repaired.”

“When we choose to take the time to stop and see things from a different perspective, it can add value and opportunity.” –Unknown

“Doing your best does not mean working yourself to the point of a mental break down.” -Unknown

“You can admire someone else’s beauty without questioning your own.” -Unknown

“Think about what you’re thinking about when your effort is low. Most likely when your effort is low you are focusing on the obligation. When you focus on the opportunity your effort will be high.”

“You don’t have to be interesting. you have to be interested.” -John Gottman

“Admit when you’re wrong. Shut up when you’re right.” -John Gottman

“How you make others feel about themselves says a lot about you.” –Unknown

“Some people, some jobs, some situations are only rehearsals for the real thing. Everything worth having takes time and practice.” -Unknown

“People and things do not upset us, rather we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us”-Albert Ellis

“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.” –Unknown

“Sometimes your circle decreases in size, but increases in value.” -Unknown

“The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who were benefiting from you having none.” -TobyMac #speaklife

“Always pray to have eyes that see the best in people, a heart that forgives the worst, a mind that forgets the bad, and soul that never loses faith.”.-Unknown

“Sometimes in life the most uncomfortable discussions are the ones that are the most important to have. Our children are capable of making mistakes just like we are. In fact, allowing them to make mistakes and learn the lessons that come with them will help them grow as individuals. Choose to speak truth to your children, it will teach resilience. When I speak truth I model that sometimes life is tough, we may hurt, but we communicate, we process, we feel, we cope, and we move forward.”

“When a person chooses to embrace forgiveness, they choose to live a life in spite of past hurt and pain. Letting go is not giving up. Letting go is not quitting...letting go simply means that you are aware that in order to experience anything new, better, or different you have to first let go. Know that time does not heal, that feeling bad is okay, that some things cannot be fixed. Not all wounds are meant to heal. Some wounds are meant to be remembered, the scars are lessons learned, tragedy we overcame, and hope for the future. It is okay to not be okay. It is okay to be just fine. It is okay to have a bad day. It is okay to have a great day and let the world know just how great it is. It is okay to acknowledge the good, bad, and indifferent.”

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” -Dr. Seuss

“Take time each day to be alone with yourself, take the time to navigate your thoughts, explore your feelings. If you learn to love yourself just know you’ll never be alone and you will always love the company you’re with. You can’t pour from an empty cup. you need to take care of yourself first, so that you can take care of others.”

“No one can change your life except for you. Don't ever let anyone step all over you
Just open your heart and your mind…Don't you know things can change? Things will go your way If you hold on for one more day…You could sustain…You've got no one to blame for your unhappiness
Don't you think it's worth your time to change?” -Wilson Phillips

“We have 24 hours, 86,400 seconds, 168 hours in a week, 35000 decisions on average a day. You can choose how to spend your time, time is how you prioritize it.”

Rachel Velishek is a licensed professional clinical counselor. Fisher-Titus Behavioral Health is located in Fisher-Titus Medical Park 2, Suite C, 282 Benedict Ave., Norwalk and provides counseling services for all ages. Their office can be reached at 419-668-0311. For more information on Fisher-Titus Behavioral Health, visit fishertitus.org/behavioral-health.